Marriage is hard, but you are not alone. Working on rescuing your marriage in times of crisis takes time, and intentionality as you place God in the middle of it all.

Visit www.witnesstolove.org for many resources available.  

Below you'll find information and other resources that can help you through the hard times. 

Get Help - 

By the time you feel your marriage is in trouble, your habits and reactions are engrained. Changing them may take help from others. Below you'll find some options of people or organizations that can help you and your spouse. 

• Covenant of Love Mentor Couples - Trained Covenant of Love marriage mentor couples are available throughout the Archdiocese to help married couples achieve relationship goals with support, information, and guidance. For more information, visit: www.DBQArch.org/marriage-mentors.

 

• Catholic Charities Counseling – Individual, couple, and family counseling is available. Services are provided regardless of religion, race, or financial status. Fees are based on a sliding scale; no one is turned away because of inability to pay. For more information, click here or call 319-364-7121.

 

Change Your Behaviors - 

You can't change your spouse, you can only change yourself. Here are some ideas of what you can work on for yourself:  7 Ways to Improve Your Marriage

Here are lots of Christian marriage resources available for you to read and listen to. 
 

Be Intentional of Your Time Together - 

The best marriages make it a priority to spend dedicated time together daily. Having a daily check-in ensures you're feeling connected. Read up on the one daily talk that will benefit your marriage. 

Successful marriages spend time at a minimum, having a date once a month.

Here are some ideas of dates you can have with your spouse:
 

• Date night ideas when you're on a budget
• Date night ideas when you have children

 

Communicate Better -

Most of us communicate badly. We listen, but in reality, we're listening while thinking of what to say in response. Real listening takes practice. One great tool for listening is using "Reflective Listening." Here's a video to show you how it works. 
 

• How Reflective Listening Works
• 5 Phrases for Reflective Listening